Dulu Lain...Sekarang Lain

Dulu lain,Sekarang lain..dulu bujang sekarang dah kawen..hehehehe..Today kita story mory hal ringan2 aja,kay.Ada some of my friends yang complained saying that husband dah tak mesra macam time belom kawen dulue..Errkk..Kat uk nie pulak,biasalah,most memang tak kahwin,stayed with their partners and anak pon mestilah luar nikah,kan..bila I tanya my colleague why they didnt wanna get married.Their answers are,things will change after marriage,no more freedom,yada,yada...

Hhhmm..tulah,bila think again,memang ada husband and wife yang after few years of marriage,jalan kat shopping complex pon jauh2,makan pon asing2,no more love letters or note,no more kata-kata cinta.I pon susah jugak nak comment..Sometimes bila dah beranak pinak,anak 4,5 orang,how to hold hands lagie,kan..sorang nak tolak stroller baby,sorang nak pimpin tangan anak-anak lagie..especially after 5 years of marriage,lagie la..Usually the first 2,3 years tuh still lagie in honeymoon stage dak??Ker ada yang after 6 months dah jalan jauh-jauh dah??:P

For me,usia perkahwinan tu hanyalah numbers..it doesn't mean that nak romantic time honeymoon aja..and please jangan jadikan kerja and anak-anak alasan.Kalau dulu time bercinta boleh jalan pegang tangan and bergayut phone 2,3 jam,why now cannot? Sebab masing-masing dah ada statement dalam kepala masing-masing that "dia dah jadi milik aku",why bother?? Jangan gitu yang, Dah pegang title husband and wife orang pon boley disambar orang tau..:P

I've not been married that long..baru nak cecah 10 years,and I'm still learning..What i did to preserve the closeness between us is going out on a date just the 2 of us..movies or coffee or just take a stroll in the park.And we make sure we still hold hands..and kadang-kadang bila gediks datang,still suap2 each other..sometimes,we even makan sepinggan and minum segelas..For me,by doing so,I felt close with my other half.

Private time together is essential..walau dah kahwin 20 years and ada 6,7 anak.Spend quality time together,talking,discussing,planning..kalau bawak anak-anak,terus dah jadi tak romantic,silap-silap they all tak behave,terus hilang mood kita,kan??

There's 1 scene yang i pernah observed dengan mata kepala sendiri,10 years ago,1 pregnant women kat hentian Putra yang tengah sarat mengandung terkejar-kejar husband dia.Why?husband dia jalan jauh nun di depan..tau ajalah orang tengah sarat,mana boley jalan laju,kan..Kesian i tengok...:( Hopefully tak adalah antara kita yang sampai macam tu sekali,yer.....So my dear readers out there,apalagi?Plan a date with ur husband or bf and Selamat Bercinta!!!!